Looking for my keys...Chapter 2 - B.A.'s Story

I’m sitting on my boyfriend’s couch and my cell phone rings. It was from my brother telling me to come home and move my car since it was blocking everyone in the driveway. No big deal, right? Not exactly…

My boyfriend drops me off at my house and I move my car. While I’m walking into the house, I run into my brother. He was on his way out and quickly said, “Hey, Dad’s upset about something… I don’t know what it is, but I’ve gotta go, so good luck.” I’m thinking, gee, thanks. My dad and I are close so I told my brother I’d just go talk to him and see what was up.

I was on my way up to my dad’s room to talk to him I ran into my mom on the stairs. She had this really serious look on her face….. one of those looks where you see a parent and you’re just like, uh-oh this isn’t going to be good. 

I could tell she wasn’t super angry or anything, it was just a serious moment. So my mom looks at me real seriously and quietly says, “Sweetie, I just want you to know….. your dad found some things in your room and now he knows what you and your boyfriend are doing.” I’ll go ahead and let you know that my dad found condoms and wrappers hidden in my room. My dad was in no way looking for evidence or anything. He was just looking for my car keys to move my car and suddenly my secret was revealed.

Standing on the stairs with my mother and the first thing that comes to mind is to fall down the stairs head-first. I wanted to die. I mostly wanted to confront my dad, get yelled at or grounded. Anything really would be all right with me, I just wanted to get it over with.

I thanked my mom for the warning and headed to my dad’s room again. By the way, when I get really nervous I forget to exhale. So with all the courage I could muster, I start talking to my dad…Words are coming out in short little bursts; kind of similar to someone really out of breath trying to tell a story. I had braced myself for the worst because I had no clue how my dad would react, I just knew it wasn’t going to be good. I was prepared for an explosion.But the problem was, my dad didn’t erupt with anger. Instead all I got was silence…What was I going to do?

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Sex and Chocolate?

Since starting this blog, I am even more watchful of the messages that celebrities decide to share. So it comes as no surprise that another Hollywood star has proclaimed more stupid stuff for the world to hear.

Teri Hatcher, actress in the hit series Desperate Housewives, was interviewed for the October issue of Glamour UK and has a few things she wants her daughter and the world to know. 

I like a few of her suggestions.

Eat chocolate (brilliant!)

Floss your teeth (cha)

The sun will rise tomorrow (slightly cheesy and kind of reminds me of the movie Annie but ok...)

Don't sit on public potty seats (ew!)

But there was one piece of "wisdom" Ms. Hatcher gave which I question. This Desperate Housewives star apparently tells her daughter, "have great sex."

Oh boy, I can only imagine the hugs and joy that Emerson, her 10 year old girl, had when her mama gave her that little nugget of knowledge! I mean, we all know 10 year old girls LOVE to have awkward conversations with their parents about VERY intimate things, huh? What child do you know that wouldn't want to hear, "have great sex" over "I love you" and other cornball words like that? 

Another thing Ms. Hatcher recomends is not sitting on public toilet seats. This is interesting to me. I bet the reason Teri Hatcher advises her daughter not to sit on public potty seats is not only can they be very gross but also because you can catch a disease like hepatitis from a toilet seat and not even know it was there. Hmmm...according to the Centers for Disease Control, one of our every four sexually active teenage girls contracts a sexually transmitted disease. Most STD/STIs don't even have symptoms and many can't be seen. Do you see a similarity there? 

So let me see, Ms. Hatcher tells her 10 year old daughter to have great sex but has she given her any boundaries? What do you think are the chances that this single Hollywood mom has bothered to tell her little girl that the best place to have great sex is in marriage? I'd wager a big bar of Ghirardelli chocolate that she has conveniently overlooked that part of the sentence. 

There are some missing parts of that conversation, Ms. Hatcher. Sure, sex is a good thing but in case you haven't noticed, it can also be really complicated. Sex is intense and wonderful and also very serious. There are consequences and risks that extend far beyond pregnancy and diseases. 

I'm sure Ms. Hatcher is a loving mom but if she wants to impart helpful advice to her daughter or anyone else for that matter, she needs to floss her brain before speaking and tell her the rest of the story.

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Hey friends!

We are really excited to get this party started! Woo hoo! However you found us, welcome! Thanks for stopping by!

What our blog is:

A place to encourage

A place to share

A place to offer insights and perspective

What our blog isn't:

A place to bash guys

A place to be gross or disgusting

A place to put down others

After speaking to thousands of students throughout the county and state about love, sex and relationships, we wanted to keep the conversation going. We see so many hurting students, so many young people needing some support, we thought this was a way to reach out.

In the upcoming posts, we hope to give you all motivation about making healthy decisions. My buddy and fellow blogger B.A. will share her story her love story complete with the not-so great parts. I will post about some of our experiences out there speaking to young people and of course, your own stories are welcome.

We look forward to getting the word out there and hearing from you!